Writing is a lot like like gardening. When we’re willing to get our hands dirty, the blank page becomes a space to cultivate and sustain life — a little plot for growing seeds that, when exposed to just the right slant of sunlight, blossom into nourishing fruit. But as any gardener would know, there’s an art, a cadence to growing green things: A season for uprooting, and another for tilling. Next, a time for waiting while the elements work their magic. Then, finally, the harvest.

The same rhythm rings true in growing ourselves. Thankfully, unlike actual gardening, storytelling requires no green thumb. You don’t even have to identify as a writer to reap the benefits of writing — you just have to want to do the work.

Reflective journaling engages us with ourselves. It cultivates self awareness, exposing what’s beneath the surface so we can uproot what doesn’t belong and tend what does, so we can find the stories we’re living and, if needed, write better ones. The process may get messy, but isn’t that the nature of all world-changing work?

Let’s dig in.

1. Write a mission statement for your life.

Theologian Frederick Buechner said, “Vocation is where our deep gladness meets the world’s great need.” What makes your soul glad? What needs do you notice around you? Think about how the two overlap. Can you connect the two purposefully to serve your loved ones, neighborhood, or city? Use what you come up with to craft a mission statement, and use it as a filter for decision making.

2. The grass isn’t greener.

What’s the thing in your life you idealize? That milestone you look toward with anticipation that, when you achieve it, you’ll finally arrive? Maybe it’s a relationship or a job. Whatever it is, flip the perspective. What are the difficulties that thing might add to your life? Write yourself a note from the other side of the fence, the thing you think you have to reach before you can live fully. Be honest about the struggles that might accompany this milestone, and remind your retrospective self to treasure where she is.

  The process may get messy, but isn’t that the nature of all world-changing work?

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3. Root and fruit.

Every action is tied to a belief, like the fruit that blossoms from an unseen root beneath the ground. List a few fruits you see in your life right now — behaviors or emotions on the surface. Then, go to the source. Search for the roots beneath those emotions or actions. Draw it out if you need to. How can you uproot the beliefs causing the behaviors, and what new belief do you want to replace them with?

4. Love yourself.

Write down one area of your life you’re insecure about — the thing you hide from others for fear of being judged or misunderstood. Then, write a letter to the ones you’re worried might judge you, telling them what they’re missing out on when they zone in on your perceived flaws. For example, I’ve felt shame about my body, but it also gave birth to and sustained my son. Bring what you’ve hidden into the light of a new perspective.

5. If your life was a letter, what would it say?

Everything we do and say creates someone else’s reality. For instance, when I live under a cloud of anxiety, I steal the hope you’ve labored hard to live in. When I cringe because of the way the fabric on my dress hits my stomach, I say your body might not be good enough, either. What message are you sending to other people with how you live? How can you change the story?

Do you have a drive to write? What about?

Images via Stephanie Draime



9 comments

  1. I feel the drive to write about my life. Where I may or may not be heading and my whole journey along the way. This life is hard enough without people with whom you can commiserate or be there for in the harder times. This is one of those times, and I want to try to be that person for others.

  2. This article’s posture speaks only the true character of what Darling seems to operate on. If what could be journaled only remains inside the mind and isn’t scribbled into the pages of an empty vessel, you could be robbing the chance to realize a journey your heart and soul could tackle onto. The words I am using could sound too illustrative and romantic, but the root of many beliefs and misconceptions we have about ourselves take place in the heart. It can be our lifelong battle, or the victory waiting to happen.

  3. ”When I cringe because of the way the fabric on my dress hits my stomach, I say your body might not be good enough, either.”
    That line speaks to my soul, beautifully true.
    Thank you.

  4. Thank you, Ashley. I was lauded as a talented writer in high school and for a few English classes in college, but I stopped pursuing it because of my own misconceptions about what success meant as a writer. Now approaching my 10 year high school reunion, I realize now how much I enjoyed writing back then, and how much it helped me explore, discover, and express myself. These writing prompts are right on time for me to get back into something I didn’t recognize as a natural born talent. 🙂

  5. Beautiful analogy of tending to ‘our gardens’ Ashley. Through various seasons, they will grow and change. I like that representation in my life. Through seasons of difficulty or setback, I have learned to grow. We each have a unique story that can enhance others lives. Thank you for sharing. It has me thinking over here….. 🙂

  6. Love this so much, Ashley. I am looking forward to working on and growing into #3. Thank you thank you for sharing your garden with the rest of us!

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