As we approach the launch of our third (THIRD!!) print issue, we want to take time to recognize the amazing Kickstarter supporters who funded our very first issue in September, helping us make our dream a reality and ultimately get to where we are today. Today we’re featuring Rebecca Bass-Ching, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and owner of Potentia Family Therapy in San Diego, California. Read on to learn more about who Rebecca is, what she does for others, and what “the art of being a woman” means to her.
Hi Rebecca. Thank you for your generous donation to our campaign! What inspired you to help fund Darling’s first print issue?
When I first learned about this project, I was ecstatic! I felt like a kid in a candy store when reading about the vision for this magazine. Darling is a compilation of so many of my personal and professional passions and values. I was hooked immediately and am so proud to be a Kickstarter supporter in addition to an ongoing cheerleader of Darling.
You own a practice called Potentia Family Therapy, which aims to help empower people to redefine culture’s definition of health and discover their worth and value beyond numbers, titles, other people’s opinions. How do you accomplish that mission?
It feels like a daunting mission at times but I am dedicated to adding a different perspective to the collective dialogue on health, worth and value. Whether I am meeting with someone one-on-one, running a workshop, speaking to a large group or writing a blog post, I will use my voice to challenge the belief our worth is dictated by a number on the scale.
Potentia is this beautiful refuge from the crazy-making in the world and it is such a joy and honor to work with women (and men) who seek to heal their relationship with their body, food and their story. We provide psychotherapy, nutrition and wellness therapy, yoga and massage to help treat the whole person.
I really believe if we learn how to bench negative emotion and manage it in ways where we do not harm ourselves or others, we can live life to the fullest by living out the calling we have on this planet. This is pretty courageous and inspiring work to witness.
What does “health” mean to you, and what do you think is wrong with our culture’s definition of it?
I think our culture has reduced defining health to antiquated measures and harmful quick fixes. I see health as a comprehensive definition beyond numbers and tables. I believe True Health is:
- Spending most of our waking hours doing something that fuels our passions;
- Managing our financial resources so we can meet our obligations but also can give generously;
- Regularly connecting with a small group of people on an emotionally intimate level where we are seen, heard and understood;
- Connecting on a regular basis to our local community;
- Having faith or a regular spiritual practice;
- Living in a body that has energy, moves well and does not hurt.
When one or more of these is out of whack, then our True Health is jeopardized.
In your experience, where do you most often see women getting their worth from?
Hands down, so many of us give over the power of our worth and value to what I call the “collective other.” My clients and my own journey have taught me that perpetually seeking to get approval from others can leave us feeling out of control, hopeless and exhausted. When we chase after the approval of others through our performance, our looks, our material possessions, and being “perfect,” we lose touch with who we are and instead live a life of fear, disconnection and isolation. This is the breeding ground for some serious emotional pain, which often results in medicating this pain in ways that are harmful to self and/or others.
Lastly—because it’s what we’re all about—we can’t help but ask, what does “the art of being a woman” mean to you?
The art of being a woman for me is managing the beautiful tensions in: strength and vulnerability, connection and boundaries, family and drive, creativity perfectionism, serving and receiving, faith and facts, multi-tasking and being still, community and individuality. The space where I wrestle out these tensions results in the crazy-messy-beautiful art of being me.