Although Rhett Butler frankly—and famously—refused to “give a damn” about Scarlett O’Hara, why can’t we, to this day, even attempt to shelve the classic that the leading lady of Gone with the Wind has become? Perhaps the most iconic southern belle ever to grace the silver screen, Scarlett O’Hara is possibly even more renowned than the novel-turned-movie itself. She has redefined and redirected our view of women from the legendary South, with her frightening good looks and shrewd coquettish charm, and it may, in fact, be the controversy behind this sweetly-selfish nature of Scarlett that keeps her so close to our hearts.
Many who are familiar with Scarlett and her conniving yet compelling traits tend to side either with or against her. Just a mention of the name “Scarlett O’Hara” can start its own civil war within the minds of American women. However, it is this paradox of character that draws us to the Atlanta queen, simply because the cheeky persona that’s hidden beneath her corseted figure is far from perfect—it’s as real and as dimensional as our own.
Scarlett O’Hara’s true-to-life qualities fascinate us because, at a time when women were expected to wear the façade of a socially acceptable belle and keep their thoughts to themselves, Scarlett never dressed up her emotions. Even when it was considered inappropriate to share her affection for men, Scarlett affirmed her loving sentiments, just as when it was too early in the afternoon to reveal décolletage, she pulled her sleeves below the shoulders. Today, the courage with which Scarlett chose to follow her instincts continues to be an attribute of which we never see enough.
…at a time when women were expected to wear the façade of a socially acceptable belle and keep their thoughts to themselves, Scarlett never dressed up her emotions.
When Margaret Mitchell describes the heroine she fashioned in Gone with the Wind, she explains that although Scarlett’s “manners had been imposed upon her by her mother’s gentle admonitions… her eyes were her own.” Those piercing green eyes that captivated every man south of Charleston revealed an independent spirit that ran deeper than the simple “yes sir, no ma’am” attitude of other young Georgia belles. Scarlett’s eyes were the window into a world of her own making that, unlike the world of the antebellum South—along with its women—could not be tamed nor trodden.
Even with her unrivaled beauty, Scarlett’s independent eyes proved to be her most attractive quality; not only could others see within them a strength that was lacking in other girls, but those eyes allowed Scarlett to see a solution past every obstacle that stood in her way. After her beloved home, Tara, had been all but destroyed, Scarlett, in a gripping moment of realization, discovered the reality of her own independence. She vowed, with God as her witness, that she would never be hungry again. The South and its romantic illusion of damsels in distress may have succumbed to the war, but Scarlett, a rebel to the traditional ways of womanhood, succeeded instead. With her unwavering independence, Scarlett lived to be the only winner on the losing side.
Like Scarlett, we must face the often hidden truth that society is not always the best teacher. Every way in which Scarlett was “flawed” in the eyes of others played a role in her survival. Although flirtatious, she found husbands to finance her family’s land and feed her dependent sisters; although outspoken, she never settled for that which she did not desire.
As modern women, we should embrace Scarlett’s challenge to accept our own imperfections with a spirit of independence, one that separates us from the waning standards of society. The fear of being yourself should be no match against the fear of losing yourself and, even worse, allowing the world to lose you when you’re the only one it has.
…we should embrace Scarlett’s challenge to accept our own imperfections with a spirit of independence…
Now, what would Rhett Butler say about all this, if he did “give a damn?” Remember that while other men only loved Scarlett for her strength, courage and vibrancy, Rhett loved Scarlett completely—flaws and all. He found her flirtations charming; he smiled at her selfish ambitions. Perhaps, he accepted Scarlett at her worst because it paved the way for who she was at her best. The same passion that ignited Scarlett’s lust for life fueled her fire for survival.
So, whether you’re from the South and a southern belle at heart, or, maybe even a Scarlett living in the big city, never sacrifice the flaws and features that define who you are at your best. If we choose to forgo our individuality, or trade it in for a carbon copy laced with social graces, we may miss out on the Rhett Butlers of this world. But even if we do, and we may—for, like Scarlett, we’re nowhere near perfect—we’ll always have the chance to get him back. After all, “Tomorrow is another day!”
How can you, like Scarlett, embrace what makes you unique in a graceful, yet powerful, way?
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