How do we handle a situation like this with love, clarity and grace?
How do we handle a situation like this with love, clarity and grace?
How do we initiate difficult conversations and ensure we don’t irrevocably hurt those we love?
You mean well, but is it backfiring?
One of my favorite authors is Shauna Niequist, a writer who shares insight regarding relationships, community, and engaging with one another while gathered around the table, surrounded by food and drink and friendship. Niequist is a compelling storyteller who uses her own life as a platform for connecting with her readers in a genuine, intimate way.
One of her primary topics of focus is cultivating meaningful relationships and diving honestly and openly into a supportive community. She writes about this in her book Bittersweet when she expounds upon the topic of the home team:
Valentine’s Day can be tough — some people love it and others love to loathe it. While we can surely understand that, we also think that any day centered on being intentional with those around you is fine in our book. It just may take some reimagining (and a bit of creativity) to see new ways of making someone smile.
That’s why we’ve teamed up with Shutterfly to bring you some foolproof advice for making anyone’s day — Valentine’s or otherwise. Below we’re sharing four key things to keep in mind to ensure authenticity is always at the heart of any gift.
Integrity is the map to achieving our maximum potential; it is the wholeness of our self. As we pursue integrity, we obtain virtues that better us. We all desire to capture the best possible future that exists and make it our present reality; setting standards accomplishes this. Standards are the footprints on the path we hope we’re brave enough to take. They define our personhood and determine our character as we discern the character of others. How we believe we should be treated is directly related to the standards we create.
As I addressed my Christmas cards this year, I realized I didn’t have an updated address for a friend of mine. I logged onto Facebook to say hello and ask for her new address.
Then I realized we weren’t friends.
There she was, and right next to her profile was the little “add friend” icon.
I had been unfriended.
I can still remember standing in line for dinner at summer camp. My best friend and I had just met six other teenage strangers who we would share a cabin with. As our counselor had asked us to do, we’d gone around the circle to share our name and a few details with each other.
Standing in line for salad and lasagna I said rather brazenly, “Oh my gosh, how annoying was that girl sitting next to you!? Ugh. I can tell she wants to be our best friend, but no thanks. Couldn’t they find another cabin for her?”
I laughed, we agreed — and then I turned around.
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I love having friends over for lunch. There is something so special about welcoming someone into your home and into your space. As a confidant, we can practice this art of intentionality when we choose to invite others into our lives. This salad is an easy, quick, and colorful lunch to help create that space.
In less than a month, our little family will leave the town where we have built our lives for over a decade. We are moving to a new state, following new opportunities — and we are excited. But there is also sorrow as we leave the community, town, and jobs that we have had for so long.
The world we live in is increasingly mobile, and in this season of life, many of us may find ourselves moving for school, a job, a relationship, or even for an adventure.
Or, we may find ourselves waving goodbye to our dearest friends as they drive away to a new place while we stay put. Compared to a hundred years ago, it is remarkably simple to transport our possessions across the country. What is less simple is navigating the change in friendships when we — or they — move away.
Whether in the news or in the workplace, we’re always hearing about advocates who are proudly supporting causes that they feel are important. Men and women across the world stand up for human rights, impoverished people groups, children being trafficked, and many other humanitarian efforts. But,
Airports have come to mean an awful lot to me. College was the impetus for a stage in which highs and lows were marked by arrivals and departures. Before we were married, my husband and I lived on opposite ends of the country. After graduating,
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The often quoted “make new friends but keep the old” adage has proven a fundamental pillar in the unwritten rulebook of relationships. Though certainly easy to preach, the intentional practice of this mantra proves difficult in early adult life — throw in curveballs of time,
I am blessed with really beautiful friendships. Vivid memories of laughter, adventures, and long talks where we share our dreams and fears are sprinkled generously throughout my memory. As a highly relational person, friendships and community make me into the fullest version of myself. Without
We asked Emily Gallentine, who we consider a “professional friend,” to teach us about the second type of love, which in Greek is called Philia. This side of love includes love between family members, friends, and community—requiring loyalty, equality, and familiarity. Otherwise referred to as phileo,
Age twelve. I sit in front of the mirror in the locker room after gym, watching my friend put on her mascara. “We don’t like her.” She whispers to me with a cruel smile, eyeing a girl walking past us. “Why?” I ask. “Because she’s pretty.” This dusty little
Are you taking the challenge to host a holiday get-together this year
We all have them: difficult members of our family, or awkward friends. When we see them crossing the room to possibly engage us in conversation, we wish we were suddenly invisible. Or, they are the type who will not speak to you until you speak
Say Thanks. Give a letter. When you came home today and fetched your mail, were you hoping that just maybe someone was sweet enough to send you a handwritten letter? And I bet that’s what you found wasn’t it? A thoughtful, encouraging, handwritten note. I’m just kidding.
The ancient King Solomon wrote the words “pleasant words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones,” and in contrast, “a gossip separates close friends.” From the beginning of time humans have dealt with communication issues and emotional pain. Yet, although
A few years ago, I attended a relationship panel offered in our community by a couple who was married for 10 years. These are always interesting, especially as a single woman in her mid-30’s who’s expected to be long done with dating panels by this