How To Dress For A First Date

How To Dress For A First Date | Darling Magazine

True story. Nearly seven years ago, I had my first date with my now husband. He told me to be ready at 7:30am (yeah, 7:30. In the morning.), and kept the location a surprise. It was summertime, and I knew we would be outside, so I wore a white tank top and shorts with a lightweight jacket. Long story short, he took me to Sea World (incredible), but I starved for the first few hours because I was too embarrassed to tell him I was hungry, slipped and fell on wet ground (he caught me), realized my white tank was a bad idea when mixed with a water park and got pooped on by a seagull. Good thing he was awesome, because the date was no more than perfect.

Fortunately, most first dates aren’t this risky, but that doesn’t mean they aren’t just as stressful. Dates are supposed to be fun, enjoyable and more importantly, a way to find a connection between you and what could be your partner in life. With just a few tips, we know you’ll be well on your way to a wonderfully successful date number two.

Know Where You’re Going
Although it’s nice to be surprised sometimes, first dates probably aren’t the best venue for uncertainty. Plan for the meet to be somewhere that you’re familiar with, so that choosing an outfit may be easier. Or if he’s choosing, make sure you’re dressing for the location. Daytime coffee? Cotton dress and boots. Late afternoon hike? Active wear with running shoes. Nighttime comedy club? Chiffon top, skinnies and modest heels.

Be Comfortable And Keep The Mystery
We know we say it time and time again, but feeling comfortable in what you’re wearing really makes a difference in confidence level. Also, be mindful of staying classy in your choices, so save the crop tops and shorty shorts for casual summer days in attempt to keeping his attention on your words and not your body.

Be Prepared
There’s nothing worse than being cold (or unprepared), so always remember to have a jacket handy in case the date turns out great and goes longer than expected. You never know if your coffee chat turns into a walk through at a museum, or a quick bite to eat somewhere.

Keep Makeup And Jewelry Light
When it comes to beauty and accessories, stay minimal. You want this person to get to know you and see who you are, not be distracted by heavy eye makeup and clinking bangles. Opt for a lighter more neutral look; simple eye makeup with a natural colored lip and maybe your favorite watch or necklace.

Have Fun
If I hadn’t been ready for adventure and the unpredictable “events” that occurred that day at Sea World, I might have missed the great company I was in. Keep expectations at bay and simply have fun! The first date could be the start to something more amazing than you ever had planned.

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Festival Fashion

The time is nigh for dancing and frolicking to an impending beat of a multitude of drums from band upon band. Yes, ladies, it is festival season. With SXSW under our belts and Coachella mere days away (not to mention a bevy of other perhaps more carefully curated fests), you may be raiding your closet and the latest sample sales for just the right outfits—and it’s not as simple as one might initially think.

It’s wise to take into account sun exposure, night temperature drop, amount of walking versus standing, and how much you want swinging around while you’re bouncing up and down in the dance tent…all the while attempting to look relatively attractive and feel comfortable. Here are some suggestions to help you get dressed and ready to rock on…

Festival Fashion | Darling Magazine

1 // Madewell Silk Picket-Stripe Tee 2 // Rag & Bone Floppy Brim Fedora 3 // Hobo Portia Wristlet 4 // Jett Spring Collection Boots 5 // Chanel Le Vernis Nail Color 6 // Acne Denim Shorts

Festival Fashion | Darling Magazine

1 // Madewell Silk Cami Dress in Sungarden 2 // Oliver Peoples Annaliesse Sunglasses 3 // Miss Selfridge Ombre Snake Chain 4 // Frye Campus Mini Crossbody 5 // 3.1 Phillip Lim Nancy Flat Oxfords

Festival Fashion | Darling Magazine

1 // DV By Dolce Vita Knit Eyelet Jeralyn Dress 2 // Cleobella Cantina Mini Satchel Bag 3 // Mossimo Supply Co. Purple Woven Ombre Scarf 4 // Valentino Vintage Cat Eye Sunglasses 5 // Tory Burch Amalie Patent Leather Sandal

Festival Fashion | Darling Magazine

1 // Man Repeller x PJK Pixie Ruffle Blouse 2 // Le Specs Halfmoon Sunglasses 3 // Cacharel Powder Pleated Silk Skirt 4 // Anthropologie Linkbloom Bracelet 5 // Julep Rock Candy Nail Glaze 6 // Annie Bing Cream Ponyskin Moccasin

Spring Trends

Jackie Rose is a style consultant and personal shopper with a love for all-things-fashion. Most recently featured in Refinery29’s 3 Crazy Closets You’ve Got To See To Believe, it’s safe to say that Jackie knows a thing or two about style. Read on to learn more about spring trends to try this season…

Springtime is my favorite season for fashion—a celebration of beauty, femininity,and elegance in both nature and in fashion. All winter long we look forward to the weather warming up allowing us to be able to wear beautiful dresses, vibrant colors, and clothes that make us feel truly feminine—and that time is finally here!

As I tell all my clients: Be inspired by what moves you, you don’t have to follow something just because it is trendy. Take what you want from each trend and make it your own.

Black & White Ensembles

Spring Trends | Darling Magazine

This trend translates really well into the modern woman’s wardrobe. The Black and White Ensemble is a classic way to look effortlessly chic. I’ve been recommending to clients they try a black skirt with a white silk blouse, or a LBD (Little Black Dress) with a white blazer over with heels. If you want to have a little fun with it, try adding a pop of color with a statement necklace or a fun and vibrant lip color. Either way, this is a winning combination.

Ruffles, Frills, and Flounce

Spring Trends | Darling Magazine

We will be seeing quite a bit of this trend during the spring season. I particularly love the strategically placed ruffles on a collar or neckline, adding detailed flair to a pencil skirt, or embellishing a one shoulder blouse. I tell clients that with this trend less is more. I really enjoy the ruffles on a pretty pastel for spring but there is also something truly elegant about the way black ruffles move on a woman’s body for a night look.

Colored Lace

Spring Trends | Darling Magazine

This trend is my favorite so far. We’re seeing it on the red carpet, and we’re seeing it on the runway. I recommend a delicate lace blouse with skinny jeans and a bright clutch or a colorful lace skirt paired simply with a white tee and a bold statement necklace. This look pairs great with metallic flats.

Images via College Fashion, InStyle, Penny Pincher Fashion and Gabba Gabba Gorgeous

On The Road To Emerald City

Since Emerald is Pantone’s 2013 Color of The Year, we thought we’d share a few different ways to incorporate this jewel tone into your wardrobe. Read on to see three different ways contributor Chelsea Taylor styled the color…

On The Road To Emerald City | Darling Magazine

When wearing a jewel tone as rich as emerald, you want to choose wisely when pairing it with other shades. One complimentary color you can use is a royal or navy blue. These two colors create an elegance that would be very appropriate in any professional environment. For the right amount of fun, mix with prints like a palm leaf pencil skirt and textures like the laser-cut blouse shown above.

1// 1928 Jewelry Emerald Whimsey Button Earrings ($25) 2 // Madewell Something Else Laser Star Blouse ($159) 3 // Forever 21 Opulent Collar Necklace (no longer available) 4 // Adriana Degreas Bananeira Skirt ($267) 5 // Alice + Olivia Dina Suede Pumps ($207) 6 // TOPSHOP Clean ID Satchel ($68) 7 // Elizabeth Arden Ceramide Ultra in Coral Vibrations ($23)

On The Road To Emerald City | Darling Magazine

Have you ever walked into the gym and noticed the extreme lack of color going on? Replace drab blacks and greys in your workout wear by using emerald in their place. Alternatively, this look works well for brightening up on casual days around town, or running errands.

1 // McQ by Alexander McQueen Tropical Print Leggings ($206) 2 // Wesc Sweatshirt ($98) 3 // Gola Sneakers ($59) 4 // Skullcandy Titan Earbuds ($35) 5 // Emi-Jay Hair Ties ($11)

On The Road To Emerald City | Darling Magazine

Since spring is just about ready to peek around the corner, it’s time to start thinking in brighter hues. Couple

your deep emeralds with lighter green options like mint, then throw in some specs of cobalt and a bright red nail or lip for a timeless, breezy look.

1 // Dorothy Perkins Green Vintage Maxi Dress ($59) 2 // Linda Farrow Metal Top Wayfarer ($622) 3 // RGB Cosmetics Classic Red Opaque Cream ($16) 4 // Jill Michael Jewelry Bracelet #1 ($32) 5 // Jill Michael Jewelry Bracelet #2 ($32) 6 // Joie Daydreaming Print Loafers ($175)

NYFW Reflections From The Refined Woman

NYFW Reflections from The Refined Woman | Darling Magazine

Somehow it felt fitting that our first visit to New York Fashion Week for The Refined Woman would occur during a snowstorm. It was a flurry of runway shows, shaking hands and swapping cards, hailing cabs and photographing everything we laid our eyes on. It was all at once overwhelming and wonderful.

Overwhelming because from the outside it seems to be all about what brand you are wearing and who you know in the industry. The fashion world revolves around what can be seen from the exterior. It can be intimidating to enter that world when you feel that you don’t measure up. Yet, the reality is that though some might make Fashion Week about those things, it’s not everything that it is.

There are some truly wonderful aspects to New York Fashion Week, and those are the parts we want to focus on—parts that are beautiful and fun and make us excited to be artists, stylists, and photographers.

The creativity that each designer puts into each runway show—down to the music, the lights, the feeling that each collection gives you—is an exhilarating thing to behold. At the end of each day as we scrolled through our images from each show, it was the creativity of each designer that filled us with the motivation to do it all again the next day (even when that meant staying up late to post those images and waking up early to make it to the next show).

What we found though is that if you are kind, and if you work hard, amazing things can happen. There is no industry this doesn’t apply to—even fashion, as intimidating as it can seem.

We met people who took the time to stop and connect amidst the chaos inside the tents at Lincoln Center. Those are the moments that made Fashion Week for us. The moments that we could connect with others about what excites us. It made us want to go back next year and find someone new and assure them that there is more to fashion than meets the eye.

Now that we’ve told you all about it, here are some of our favorite photos from NYFW…

NYFW Reflections from The Refined Woman | Darling Magazine

NYFW Reflections from The Refined Woman | Darling Magazine

NYFW Reflections from The Refined Woman | Darling Magazine

NYFW Reflections from The Refined Woman | Darling Magazine

NYFW Reflections from The Refined Woman | Darling Magazine

NYFW Reflections from The Refined Woman | Darling Magazine

NYFW Reflections from The Refined Woman | Darling Magazine

NYFW Reflections from The Refined Woman | Darling Magazine

NYFW Reflections from The Refined Woman | Darling Magazine

How To Dress For A Wedding

How To Dress For A Wedding | Darling Magazine

The year of 2012 was the year that friends at work made fun of me. I started to dread people asking me what I was doing for the weekend. Nearly my entire year was already planned. “You know what I’m doing this weekend,” I replied. They would gasp. “No!! Not another one! You’re lying.” I wasn’t lying. I was in fact, going to another wedding.

Even though it took up my entire year, I loved every minute. I adore the excitement, the commitment, the glamour, the outfit planning. In the past few years, I’ve been to about twenty-two weddings (not including my own). I say “about” because I might have missed a couple. Plus, there are seven weddings I didn’t count because it’s been more than a few years for those, and that would just be cheating.

With nearly twenty-nine weddings under my belt, and maybe one outfit repeated, I’d like to think I’m somewhat of an expert when it comes to learning how to dress for such an occasion.

The easiest way to start is by reading the invitation. The invitation is the window to the entire theme of the event. Where is the wedding being held? Is it casual by the beach? It is formal at a golf club? Is it cocktails at a museum? Or is it lighthearted in a barn? Get the feel for the couple getting married (after all, you know them well enough to be attending) and then you can begin the fun process of putting together an outfit.

As discussed in our previous post about how to dress for a bridal shower, the same rule applies about wearing white to a wedding. It’s a very short and simple answer of: please do not, ever. Unless the bride and groom have announced they are having an all-white party (it’s been done before—don’t we all remember Kim Kardashian’s black and white wedding?), wearing any shade of white will get you a few awkward looks from guests who are familiar with traditional wedding etiquette.

Once the location is determined, let us move forward in planning an appropriate debonair ensemble. Consider the following as possible suggestions…

For The Casual Wedding: Least Dressy
Dresses that are free-flowing silhouettes, brighter colors and perhaps with belted details can all be worn with ease to an outdoor or non-traditional wedding. Soft, breathable fabrics are great for these types.

For The Cocktail Attire Wedding: Dressy
More form fitting dresses in darker colors, possibly with some embellishment are always welcome in a dressier setting. If form fitting isn’t your style, try an A-line dress in a nice fabric or something with some swing, but gathered at the waist to give definition.

For The Formal Wedding: Very Dressy
Formal weddings don’t come around that often, but when they do, wearing a floor length dress is the way to go. Stay classy by keeping the dress simple and staying away from too many skin-baring-cut-outs or sequins.

Image via Atlantic Pacific

The Achiever Embodied: Amie Sider

The Achiever Embodied: Amie Sider | Darling Magazine

This is part of an ongoing series called Embodied, which features women who we feel embody some element of the persona they’re featured in. Amie (pictured on the left above) valiantly launched her own non-profit organization as a response to the desperate worldwide need for to secure vocational opportunities in order to launch them out of poverty. Read on to learn more about Amie’s non-profit and about the story that led to its creation.

Tell us about NationWares, the amazing organization you founded.

I created NationWares to function as a business with a social cause in order to break the cycle of poverty for marginalized people around the world impacted by extreme poverty, disability, and HIV/AIDS. I’ve spent 10 years in the development field and, through my experiences, I’ve found that these groups usually suffer most from multiple areas of marginalization and exclusion from any kind of aid or development. NationWares was meant to fill the gap. Fashion is the vehicle that NationWares employs to drive sustainable and creative employment for over 2,000 beneficiaries in 10 countries as they create jewelry and accessories that positively impact their society, the economy, and the environment.

You were born in Guatemala and then adopted into a Canadian home. Do you still feel tied to your Guatemalan roots?

As the 13th child born to my birth mother in Guatemala, I was the only child that she had placed within the international adoption system. I came to Canada as a six-month-old refugee and became a Canadian citizen at the age of three. As a child, I came to know my birth mother through stories and photos my parents delicately shared with me as they revealed her history of drugs, crime, and prostitution, all of which she engaged in simply as a means of survival. I returned to Guatemala on a family trip at the age of five and have been madly in love with the country and its people ever since. Since then, I have returned about 20 times and finally met my birth mother and several siblings when I was thirteen. My deeply rooted love for this country, my birth family, and the Guatemalan people grows stronger each day.

How did your upbringing in Canada shape you into the woman you’ve become?

Although Canada is a country of great privilege, my parents (who are incredibly amazing, by the way) made sure that I stayed connected to my heritage. They ensured that I never took anything for granted. I have always felt a divine obligation that has motivated me to change lives and help others escape poverty just like I did. I call it a divine obligation because I feel that God placed within me a divine calling to end poverty and create the same hope, opportunity, and love that I have experienced so that it may be shared with others who need it. I guess the obligation part is because dedicating your life to helping others certainly isn’t the easiest way to live, especially within a culture that teaches us to focus on ourselves. I have to remind myself of that calling every day. Watching lives transform around the world through NationWares is a constant reminder that I’m following the path made for me and that I was put on this earth not just to enjoy it, but to share it.

The Achiever Embodied: Amie Sider | Darling Magazine

We love that NationWares provides individuals with the opportunity to find fair work. How did you decide that jewelry and accessories would be the right items to produce and sell?

I have always had a passion for fashion and creative arts. From childhood to womanhood, I’ve grown up in a society that feeds me thousands of ads a day telling me that I need certain hair, skin, makeup, clothing, products, and accessories in order to be the best version of myself. I want to show society that we can do better than what we’ve done in the past. Fashion shouldn’t cripple young girls and force them into eating disorders and seasons of self-hatred. When done right, our jewelry, accessories, and clothing cannot only be made ethically but they can also share a powerful story of hope, opportunity, and love. I’m actually working on developing a personal blog that will share my struggles in this area while also recommending other ethical sources for many of the products we frequently use on a daily basis. Any time I wear any of our NationWares products, I instantly feel connected to the person who made them. I can celebrate their success and creativity knowing that my purchase has not only helped them as an individual, but it has also helped their community and the environment.

Tell us how you’re tying the international component of employing workers around the world into your domestic component of empowering at-risk youth in Ontario, Canada.

I’ve been so blessed to speak to thousands of Canadian teens who are struggling with self-image, feeling that they have nothing to contribute to the world. They may have been adopted and they are struggling with their identity, or they are simply frustrated with our culture of consumption. Sometimes we need a reminder to focus on others instead of ourselves, a life-changing act in and of itself. Right now, our NationWares team does a lot of speaking, seminars, and workshops with schools regarding poverty, disability, HIV/AIDS, international development, and consumerism, but our goal is to be able to create educational storefronts where students and at-risk youth can work with our products hands on and also experience meaningful employment within their community.

How

do you hope to see NationWares grow in the coming years?

The sky is the limit for NationWares! I’m excited to continue to expand the scope of our fieldwork internationally. Our next big projects will continue to focus on employment and international development specifically within Latin America. I also look forward to new partnerships and relationships with stores, customers, and retailers who are interested in sharing not only our products but also the incredible passions behind them.

Just for fun—if you could travel anywhere in the world, where would you go?

I would love to do the whole Che Guevara thing and do a complete tour of Latin America by motorcycle (with incredibly padded seats).

Images provided by Amie

Shabby Apple Giveaway & Discount Code

Today we’re thrilled to bring you our very first Darling giveaway, and we could not think of a better company to partner with for this than Shabby Apple.

Shabby Apple creates clothing that is artful in design and crafted with a vintage-style flare, carefully constructing each piece to both flatter a woman’s figure and maintain her mystery. The founders created this women-owned and operated company that donates to help other women start their own businesses. They are the epitome of old-fashioned style and modern ideals, and we love them for it!

There are four ways to enter…

1. Visit Shabby Apple’s website and comment below about your favorite dress {mandatory}
2. Like Shabby Apple on Facebook
3. Tweet about this giveaway (mentioning @darlingmag and @shabbyapple)
4. Blog about this giveaway with a link back to this article.

Be sure to leave a separate comment for each entry, as it will guarantee that you get more chances to win. Also, please note that you need a US shipping address to enter—sorry international ladies!

Lastly, because the gals at Shabby Apple don’t want to leave anyone out, they are giving all of you 10% off of your purchase at Shabby Apple for an entire month! Use the code darling10off at checkout to get your discount.

So, which Shabby Apple dress is your favorite?

Images courtesy of Shabby Apple