Surviving Unemployment

I’ve never been on an emotional roller coaster quite like unemployment. Searching for a job can be a lonely, frustrating and often lengthy process filled with uncertainty and possibility. I was met head on with questions about my ability and worth during a recent phase of unemployment, and it led to more self-doubt than I’d experienced since those awful middle school years.

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Through the season of tackling my job search, I picked up a few helpful strategies to secure a position that I wanted, while clinging on to my sense of self in the process.

What everyone says about networking is true. Though I certainly know people who have come into their occupations by applying online, it’s the minority. Forbes estimates that about 40 percent of jobs are found through networking, while other news outlets estimate that percentage to be closer to 80. Networking allows you to get a better idea of whether you would be a good fit for various companies, and it enables you to discuss opportunities with an actual employee. Though we live in a tech-centric world, the personal approach is still the key.

Find advocates. Once you’ve built up a decent network of professionals in your desired work field, it’s time to find some advocates. Look for people in your social sphere who are open to discussing opportunities in their company. Ask if they would be willing to recommend you for any openings or notify you of new positions that you might be qualified for. Though it can sometimes feel uncomfortable asking others for favors like this, many people are happy to help out job-seekers and present worthy candidates for open positions.

Focus in. Beginning the job hunt by looking into a wide array of opportunities is wise, but there comes a time to focus your efforts on a few of the most promising leads. Choose companies that are both interesting to you and have your strongest connections to potential advocates. If you can, set up informational interviews with some of your advocates’ colleagues to build a bigger network and learn about different facets of the company. Learn as much as you can and set yourself apart from other applicants through your enthusiastic interest and personal connections.

Learn as much as you can and set yourself apart from other applicants through your enthusiastic interest and personal connections.

Pursue outside goals and interests. When you’re jobless, it’s easy to think about your search 24/7. Set aside time in your day or week to invest in side projects such as volunteering, learning a new language, or developing a skill you’d like to master. Set goals for yourself, not only to complete projects and feel the satisfaction of accomplishment, but also to have more content for discussion in interviews. Interviewers love to hear that you are capable of being a self-starter and that you are motivated enough to take initiative and pursue goals on your own. It makes you both a well-rounded candidate and a memorable one!

Take proper care of yourself. Unemployment can be discouraging and leave us hopeless at times. We live in a society that loves to define people by what they do, not necessarily who they are, and being in a jobless state makes it all too easy to suffer an identity crisis. Spend time in community with those who can support and encourage you through this phase, and always remember that it is just a phase. Celebrate accomplishments and progress along the way, and continually check in with yourself on how you’re handling the search emotionally. Remember that the process of finding a job takes time, and the length of that time has nothing to do with your self-worth or potential to succeed. Unemployment is a season experienced and fought through by millions, but it’s also one that can lead to many of our brightest opportunities.

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Anne is a California native who jumps at any chance to travel and explore. Currently residing in the Silicon Valley, Anne can be found cooking, writing, reading, running, and seeking creativity in the everyday.

14 COMMENTS
  • Tilly July 18, 2016

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  • Ice July 18, 2016

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  • Dawn August 2, 2014

    Darlings….. Life does have a way of working out…. age Hah! can be just a number and yes the job market on line is the BIG BLACK HOLE IN THE CLOUD. I can offer some advice, as a long time single woman in NYC 17 yrs then stay at home mom on one income moving to follow my husbands career- Now. 22 yrs of marriage and consistent income kids going to college, financial aid and rockin the world hitting the big 50 trying to keep my diva going and living in blasted Florida going backwards in pay! We are at 8mths. so I get it. Especially when you are a middle class professional and cannot get any assistance. No health help no food stamps no medical help zip!
    Yes…. a couple of crying meltdowns at Walmart when I just had to go food shopping for my kids. 6’4 6’2 boys and 5’8 gal. Athletes need to eat and the bigger you are the more fuel you need. Kinda wish we were liliputians! As I witnessed the total food bill $ 285 we are not talking pkged foods as I cook evvvvrything cept a few snack bars. Yep, Florida unemployment is 16 weeks at 275. done bupka that is it. Time to get creative. Here are some suggestions- Single gals?
    If your single: keep looking and while your looking go underemployed-
    1. Offer your services as a personal shopper to the elderly if you have a car. Focus on demograhics look up zipcodes in your area of highest percapital income-

    Drop of cute creative cards in the mail with a short story and contact info with your talents,
    pu dry cleaning, errands, personal fashion coordinator, driver to and from. personal assistant.
    If you are talented in social networking teach people.

    If you have the where with all get certified in Zumba, boot camps personal trainer while you continue your search.

    Join your local chamber of commerce and go to any free meetings-
    MEET UPS website- nominal charges- There is a group for anything you could possibly think of . REACH OUT AND TOUCH SOMEONE – GET OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE AND OUT OF YOUR ONLINE COMPUTER BY YOURSELF MODE.

    Make a daily commitment to exercise a minimum of 20 min a day- vary your exercise. Cortisol hormone is a big stressor causing fat to accumulate – men or woman. Also exercise will help in the onset of depression so it is crucial to do daily exercise and meditate for a mere 5- 10 minutes creating positive energy.

    Go to your local starbuck daily with your computer same place same time 2x week vary to Paneras same place same time do your job search there- Increase your chance to meet people.

    Go to any Convention center events that maybe nominal in fees .

    Join the YMCA- fill out the application that you are unemployed and your fees will be cut in 1/2
    Offer your talents free in an area of interest that you know nothing about while you continue
    looking. People will take you free and you will learn something new.

    If you are using a car vs public transportation coordinate your area of interest with milage and costs to use your car.

    If your a gal who loves kids than NANNY UP ! Look in demographic areas in zipcodes of affluent people.

    If you have STUFF that you do not want SELL it on Craigs list
    IF you have clothes that are in good shape or kids clothes sell them at consignment shops.

    If you are a great organizer- sell yourself-

    Sit down and think: What talents do I have that people would pay for? Get cash only-
    Your taxed on everything. Think about it.

    What services can I offer- create a persona- People need people. They need positive, loving hard working honest committed trustworthy people. If you have those skills sell them.

    Put your head together with a friend- write down everything you can offer and come up with a tag line. Create a business card, a twitter account and make sure every day you meet 2 new people.

    Get on LINKED IN

    Go to Happy hours strategically for certain industries –
    GO to happy hours for business connections.

    Make yourself look good, get sleep, exercise, surround yourself with positive energy. Find laugher somewhere.

    Volunteer in an organization you find interesting for minimal time. Often Rehab places offer
    volunteers for activities such as helping do nails on clients, reading to kids, playing games.

    Connect with people face to face and reach out-

    The more people you reach out to the more chances something might just happen. DONT RELY ON ONLINE GO AND SEE PEOPLE-

    JOIN A MEGA CHURCH: WHAT EVER RELIGION YOU ARE WHO CARES AS LONG AS IT IS A POSTIVE LOVING PLACE. THERE ARE MINISTRIES FOR WOMEN AND MEN
    REACH OUT –

    BUY YOUR CLOTHES AT PLATO’S CLOSET OR SIMILAR PLACES-
    LOOK AT SALVATION ARMY AND GOOD WILL IN THE millionaire neighborhoods.

    THINK OUT OF THE BOX:

    Read : William Walter Atkinson- Thought vibration The power of attraction:

    Go to any barnes nobel book store – READ for FREE bring your notebook-
    Go at the same time 2x a week after starbucks or coffee shop- YOU never Know who you will meet and what you can learn in all those books.

    I hope these ideas have sparked a synapse in your brains to get out of your comfort zone
    empower yourself to create the best possible person you can be and
    get motivated. The world needs you. They just don’t know it yet because they haven’t met you!
    Sh…. happens in life…… Its how you deal with it that counts……. The ole’ saying making lemonade out of lemons. Do what you gotta do.

    Borrowing money is tough – make it your very last option-
    Move in with a friend and split the rent
    trade helping someone for a room in their house. It works, I ‘ve done it. Its a whole lot cheaper and your out looking anyway. Utilitze the YMCA’s – create your own free agenda!

    I hope these ideas have sparked a synapse in your brains to get out of your comfort zone
    empower yourself to create the best possible person you can be and get motivated. The world needs you. They just don’t know it yet because they haven’t met you!

    GOOD LUCK
    mompreneur, life coach nutrition guru, frugal fashionista,
    love of kids, financial guide and advocate of little to no debt.

    Dawn

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  • Lindsay March 25, 2014

    This hit me right to my core. It truly is a daily battle. It was encouraging to read the tip about doing things for myself. I find, with more time, I do even less reading, writing, and exercising: three of my favorite things to do! This article motivated me to make a goal to journal more often and begin a new novel.

  • Christopher March 17, 2014

    I’m schizophrenic (it’s a label, meaningless really) and in the U.K. I have a 2% chance of being employed compared to the national average, and I’ll probably die 20 years younger.

    It’s a toughie alright. So I became a wild visionary artist and a few years later am looking forward to making my first sale of an oil painting tomorrow! Well done me!

    My advice is :

    “blaze right through it like you’re crackers and you’ll get there”

    hugs

    chris

    xxx

  • Cathy March 16, 2014

    I have bipolar disorder 1 and when I was laid off recently the stress of unemployment, limited funds, and the numerous rejections I received at first spun me into a serious clinical depression. I won’t cop out like Sergey Brin’s new girlfriend and say I am neither proud nor ashamed of my condition (would someone ever say something like that about breast cancer?), because I am not well-connected and I’m not a part of the wealthy club of the fabulous. Instead, I’ll own up to it and say that I’m literally scared to death by my current circumstances.

    This article constitutes a sufficient guide for neurotypicals but for those with mental disorders the experience of unemployment can become a special kind of waking nightmare. I’ve had to sideline my job search and seek medical attention to get back to a functional level for the search.

    Unfortunately through two manic episodes in the last 20 years I’ve lost almost all of my network contacts. (They curiously remove themselves from your life.) So I’m more or less on my own. There isn’t a normative solution for my situation although your advice does ring true for me on some levels. The last thing I’ll ever do is reveal my life-long illness to anyone without using an anonymous cloak. Stigma and shunning are alive and well in this valley of click-through silicon.

  • Carol March 11, 2014

    Darling, how did you know I needed this little boost today? After landing a full time gig after months of searching, I thought I was set. Then suddenly at the end of the three month probational period, I was notified that they were going in a different direction and I was being let go. The primary cause of this was one of my bosses needed someone who could just step in and handle his load without having to walk that person through it. So he let me go and later hired his wife for the role. Needless to say it was discouraging. And as I am searching for work and getting ramped up for interviews, it’s hard to not let self doubt plague you. It’s a daily battle and fatigue is sometimes overwhelming. Thanks for reminding me that it is just a phase. It will end soon enough. I needed that so much today. You have no idea.

  • Lexie March 10, 2014

    Really nice article and useful to me. I am at that searching job phase now. Everything makes me so depress whenever I think about getting a job. Reading this article really helps me a lot. Thanks Darling…

    • Darling Magazine March 11, 2014

      Glad it could encourage you, Lexie! Hang in there:)

  • Christina Kwan March 10, 2014

    This is a great article and I think a lot of people are probably needing it right now (myself included) – not only the unemployed, but also the part-time or self-employed. Without a consistent flow of cash, we can easily feel like we’re failing as we see our bank accounts dropping. Keeping a strong sense of self worth is paramount during tumultuous or transitional states. Thanks for the awesome advice!

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